Assertive behavior is the appropriate expression of any emotion other than anxiety toward another person. In almost all cases it is seen that the person is inhibited from the performance of commonly expected behavior because of neurotic fear . Inability to say ‘no’ even when it interferes with his/her sense of autonomy, inability to raise voice against exploitations and irrational behavior are few examples of unassertive behaviour.
Assertiveness is not inborn, but is a learned behavior. Although some people may seem to be more naturally assertive than others are, anyone can learn to be more assertive. Assertiveness can be thought of as a middle point between passivity and aggression. In interpersonal situations, passive behavior occurs when you focus on the needs and desires of another person, but ignore your own needs and wishes.
In contrast, aggressive behavior occurs when you force your own needs on others. Assertive behavior involves expressing your own way of seeing things, but in a way that is respectful of the other person. Assertiveness training can be an effective part of treatment for many conditions, such as depression, social anxiety, and problems resulting from unexpressed anger. Assertiveness training can helps to improve their interpersonal skills and sense of self-respect. Through assertive training a person learns to express their own thought, ideas, feelings and needs to other without hurting others.